Comments on: G is for Growing up… http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/ An Aussie girl living in Tokyo with her Japanese boyfriend trying to make sense of her crazy yet funny Japanese life... Mon, 1 Dec 2008 23:41:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Lulu http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1386 Lulu Thu, 13 Mar 2008 14:43:42 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1386 Midori- Thanks for commenting!!! I am a lurker of your blog too actually, but am yet to leave a comment! Will do so soon though! Midori- Thanks for commenting!!! I am a lurker of your blog too actually, but am yet to leave a comment! Will do so soon though!

]]> By: Midori http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1382 Midori Thu, 13 Mar 2008 12:25:39 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1382 It is funny, as I have been thinking about the growing up thing alot recently. I turned 30 in January and have a son who is going to be 3 in April. I don't feel anymore grown up than I did 10 years ago and that fact kind of scares me. I have so many responsibilities but often feel like I am playing at being a grown-up! ;-) I commented to a friend the other day that we spent all of our teenage years dying to grow up and all of our 20s trying not to be adults! LOL! I found your blog through Nay's so thought I would leave a comment and say hi! It is always interesting reading about people who are newly engaged/married to Japanese guys as it takes me back to that stage in my life. (Which was only about 5 years ago but feels MUCH longer ago!!) Congratulations on your engagement!! It is funny, as I have been thinking about the growing up thing alot recently. I turned 30 in January and have a son who is going to be 3 in April. I don’t feel anymore grown up than I did 10 years ago and that fact kind of scares me. I have so many responsibilities but often feel like I am playing at being a grown-up! ;-) I commented to a friend the other day that we spent all of our teenage years dying to grow up and all of our 20s trying not to be adults! LOL!

I found your blog through Nay’s so thought I would leave a comment and say hi! It is always interesting reading about people who are newly engaged/married to Japanese guys as it takes me back to that stage in my life. (Which was only about 5 years ago but feels MUCH longer ago!!) Congratulations on your engagement!!

]]> By: Guera http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1301 Guera Tue, 04 Mar 2008 08:41:35 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1301 Well, I'm 35 and I still feel like I am play acting at being a grown up - and I have 2 kids! (Maybe I am kidding myself - I'm sure kids would call me "lady" in the supermarket). I don't think there's anything wrong with still feeling like a kid - I think it just means you're willing to have fun and not worry too much about the serious stuff all the time. Not a bad way to be! Well, I’m 35 and I still feel like I am play acting at being a grown up - and I have 2 kids! (Maybe I am kidding myself - I’m sure kids would call me “lady” in the supermarket). I don’t think there’s anything wrong with still feeling like a kid - I think it just means you’re willing to have fun and not worry too much about the serious stuff all the time. Not a bad way to be!

]]> By: sushi zume http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1274 sushi zume Mon, 25 Feb 2008 07:47:07 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1274 Interesting post. I think there is a great misconception that we must 'grow up'. The concept of being a child or adult is all about our perception of what these two socially formed states mean (for many people I think their perceptions are formed by govt, religious or social rhetoric). For me a child is fun loving, truthful, carefree, pure, raw, emotional, unconditionally loving, spontaneous, creative, building their own worlds imaginatively and physically. There is such a push to grow away from this pure essence. While responsibility and maturity are touted as adult qualities I think qualities like these are unattainable unless we fully accept that we must balance the child within us. Throwing it out the window, shutting it out leads to greater problems that work on a much more subconscious level. I have a theory that this is what a midlife/quarter life crisis is all about. We push and push to rid ourselves of the child and then wake up one morning thinking, "Hang on where the hell did my child go?" I also believe strongly that anyone considering parenthood should be readying themselves by bringing back as many of their child qualities as possible, feeling the spirit within them. The child/adult syndrome often becomes one of the biggest wedges between parents and their babes of any age. Having babies and getting married are rites of passage to be celebrated but are not always the key to feeling settled, content, surrounded by love (whatever it is that a adult like is supposed to grant us) The "feeling" is inside each one of us, looking within and feeling good about ourselves rather than comparing ourselves to what "our" society set as the norm (which when you think about it is kind of ridiculous!!) Yes, we are adults by age, by years and by number but I think the world would be a much more peaceful place if we all held onto and celebrated the child within us! Happiness to you now and always. Interesting post.
I think there is a great misconception that we must ‘grow up’.
The concept of being a child or adult is all about our perception of what these two socially formed states mean (for many people I think their perceptions are formed by govt, religious or social rhetoric). For me a child is fun loving, truthful, carefree, pure, raw, emotional, unconditionally loving, spontaneous, creative, building their own worlds imaginatively and physically. There is such a push to grow away from this pure essence. While responsibility and maturity are touted as adult qualities I think qualities like these are unattainable unless we fully accept that we must balance the child within us. Throwing it out the window, shutting it out leads to greater problems that work on a much more subconscious level. I have a theory that this is what a midlife/quarter life crisis is all about. We push and push to rid ourselves of the child and then wake up one morning thinking, “Hang on where the hell did my child go?”

I also believe strongly that anyone considering parenthood should be readying themselves by bringing back as many of their child qualities as possible, feeling the spirit within them. The child/adult syndrome often becomes one of the biggest wedges between parents and their babes of any age.

Having babies and getting married are rites of passage to be celebrated but are not always the key to feeling settled, content, surrounded by love (whatever it is that a adult like is supposed to grant us) The “feeling” is inside each one of us, looking within and feeling good about ourselves rather than comparing ourselves to what “our” society set as the norm (which when you think about it is kind of ridiculous!!)

Yes, we are adults by age, by years and by number but I think the world would be a much more peaceful place if we all held onto and celebrated the child within us!

Happiness to you now and always.

]]> By: Martine http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1273 Martine Sun, 24 Feb 2008 09:39:40 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1273 The new blog is nice. Just saw you are getting married, congrats! The new blog is nice. Just saw you are getting married, congrats!

]]> By: Mandy http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1272 Mandy Sat, 23 Feb 2008 17:50:57 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2008/02/23/g-is-for-growing-up/#comment-1272 Hey Lulu! Awww this post was so exciting for me because, well, I got mentioned and I know exactly what you mean about growing up but not feeling so 'grown up'!!!!! And I agree a true friendship is one where you can just pick up from where you left with ease, you can chat about anything and while we as people evolve, we still share that common link. I am just so excited for you! (I peeked on Facebook and saw your relationship status change! OMG! Did Shumpei officially propose?) I hope your stomach ulcer is better and am really glad you had an excellent birthday. Look forward to hearing more news!!! xoxoxoxoxoxox Hey Lulu! Awww this post was so exciting for me because, well, I got mentioned and I know exactly what you mean about growing up but not feeling so ‘grown up’!!!!! And I agree a true friendship is one where you can just pick up from where you left with ease, you can chat about anything and while we as people evolve, we still share that common link. I am just so excited for you! (I peeked on Facebook and saw your relationship status change! OMG! Did Shumpei officially propose?)
I hope your stomach ulcer is better and am really glad you had an excellent birthday. Look forward to hearing more news!!! xoxoxoxoxoxox

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