Freak out…
OMG, am currently looking for wedding entertainment and am having a giant freak out because I just realized that Shun and I will have to do a “first dance”. Crap.
I do not dance and come to think of it neither does he.
Do you think anyone will notice if we skip it?
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I say skip it! Mark and I don’t dance, so we did a couple of ballroom dancing classes before hand but I was really nervous and didn’t completely relax and enjoy the night until it was over. If you can’t avoid doing it, tell your bridal party and other close friends before hand to join you on the dance floor after 30 seconds so you don’t have everyone watching you for the whole song!
It’s your wedding, do what you want! If you go to youtube and look for wedding dances, I know right now in America it’s a big thing to do a popular dance to a famous song such as “Thriller” by Michael Jackson. The dance uses involves all the bridesmaids and groomsmen. You might want to do something like that if you don’t want to do a traditional dance.
We had a song picked out, but in the end, we were having too much fun going around and talking to everyone (most guests were rellies and friends we hadn’t seen in ages) so we skipped it! and I don’t regret it at all – it just wasn’t “us”. The dj was worried that no one would get up and dance, as everyone was waiting for us to dance, but a few chords of “kung foo fighting” and 90% of the guests were up and into it! lol.
But I think the 2 ideas above are a good way to get around it.
p.s. I am still looking for our wedding stuff. I think I *may* have lost it when my computer crashed last year (aarrggh) but also have a feeling I would have saved it on a cd somewhere, surely!?!??. I will keep looking, and hopefully have something for you soon.
We didn’t even have a DJ or band. The restaurant we had our reception at plays Big Band era satellite radio, and we liked the atmosphere, so we weren’t going to change that. And since it was a small restaurant, there was no room for a dance floor. I don’t think anyone missed it, though my mom might be complaining to someone who doesn’t care.
Check out the boards at Indie Bride – lots of great ideas, especially if you want to have some non-traditional elements.
I agree. It’s YOUR wedding, you are paying for it and you have to enjoy it, so why dance just because “they” say everyone dances at a wedding?
I say no dancing, I doubt anyone aside from a couple of old relatives would even notice, everyone will be too caught up in having a good time.
Nah you don’t have to dance. Do whatever you want.
As everyone has pointed out, its your wedding, so its up to you!! Dont do something that is going to make either of you uncomfortable – you want it to be the best night of your life remember!!
Naoki and I are planning on having the first dance – although neither of us can actually dance. We are just going to shuffle around the dance floor in each others arms.. and hopefully people will get up and dance before the song finishes!!
I agree with the above, its your wedding – your choice!!
My mom’s opening song at her wedding to my step-dad was “Who Let the Dogs Out”
So.. yup ???????????
Ah EXCUSE ME!!!!
Hoop Dance!
Hello?
Perfection?!
We didn’t do it. But our wedding was on the beach and then reception in a huge beach house we hired. So it was very very informal. No speeches or anything.
It is your wedding. Do it the way YOU want babe.
You don’t have to do it if you don’t want to! Our Japanese reception was a nightmare with us being forced to jump through hoops just to please the inlaws, who didn’t like it very much anyway.
Our English wedding was entirely for us – that is to say we wanted our guests to have a great time and not feel any stress or pressure but neither did we. So there was no dance or garter toss or even a bouquet toss, hardly any speeches and the top table was not served any alcohol at all so my poor shy husband would not feel obliged to drink it and feel sick the way he had to at the Japanese do. (The rest of the tables had free reign at any drinks they wanted!) Our wedding cake was traditional aged fruit cake on the bottom and a light sponge on the top tier so that everyone could have a bit of what they thought was wedding cake.
All in all we had a great time and I still enjoy our memories 14 years later! DO WHAT YOU WANT!
I don’t think you’re the bridezilla type so make it a happy day for you both, not one that makes you nervously anticipate the next hurdle so that you are not savouring it all.
You know what I would think about this….go with what you want and don’t do the first dance if it’s something you would rather skip! Don’t let anyone tell you:
“Oh you GOTTA do this…” and “you GOTTA do this..it’s what is done”.
But of course I’ve know you for so long as the lovely individualist, free-thinking person you are (now a woman…oh god, sounds like a Britney song!) that I don’t think you will slavishly follow traditions if they don’t ring true for you and Shun.
I know it will be fab time whatever you decide!!
Hope you and Shun are having fun in Bris! Mum has been complaining how cold it is!