christmas questions…
How do you celebrate Christmas?
What do you do that makes it special and unique?
We will know on Thursdsay for sure, but my dad will be starting cancer treatment this Friday almost definitely, and one of the treatment days will fall on Christmas Day & Boxing Day more than likely. Usually, despite the fact my parents are seperated now (coming up to 3 years) we would usually have breakfast together at mum`s house to open presents and enjoy breakfast. Is it selfish of me to want Christmas breakfast to go ahead as it usually would so that Shunc an see how we do things or because I will need to take Dad to the hospital mid -morning is it cruel of me to be thinking of ways we could go to breakfast, then treatment and then on to my aunties`s place for family lunch.
It is so difficult to choose a way of thinking…
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Wow! That’s great that it looks like your Dad has agreed to getting the treatment he needs! You must be so relieved! Have you asked your Dad how he’d like to spend Christmas morning? He’ll want to spend time with his family, yes? Of course it’s not selfish of you! You’ve been looking forward to sharing Christmas in Australia with Shun for so long. No matter what happens I’m sure it will be a special day for you, even if you have to be braver usual with your Dad needing to be at the hospital. Fingers crossed they’ll give him a appointment on another day!
I don’t think it is stupid or selfish to want Christmas to go ahead as it normally would. I completely understand your desire to do things “normally” and I am quite sure your Dad will appreciate it and want to spend the time with the family. You should definitely open the discussion with him but you will probably find he wants everything to be as normal as possible. (((HUGS))) from me though as it isn’t an easy situation to be in.
If your dad feels up to it, I would definitely go ahead with Christmas breakfast as usual. I don’t think it’s selfish - it would probably be a good distraction.
Working in a hospital myself, i couldn’t imagine them scheduling appointments/treatment like this on Christmas Day! Go with what Dad wants to do but don’t forget about yourself as well.
I don’t think it’s selfish to want to have your usual Christmas celebration, especially seeing it’s Shun’s first Christmas in Australia with you all. It’s a tough situation to be in, but I think keeping everything as normal as possible will be better for your dad too. So do your best to have as wonderful a celebration as you can around the appointment, whenever it happens to fall. Sometimes we just have to make the best of things
I don’t know about your family, but when I lived in Tassie I’d normally get a phone call at 7am on Christmas Day from one of my sisters - “are you up yet? When are you coming around for breakfast?!” because they were, still in their late teens/early twenties, too excited to sleep! Maybe starting the celebrations earlier than you normally would, say 8.00 instead of 9.00, would give you just that little extra time to do everything, should the appointment fall on Christmas Day.
Check this out if you haven’t already - it’s a great read, and there are some great tips on there that really helped put some things that were bothering me in perspective.
http://www.happiness-project.com/
I think you should go ahead and do it as normal… why do it any differently? So you can all dwell? And then he’ll feel bad? And you’ll always remember it as being not a ‘proper’ Christmas? You’re doing the right thing by wanting a proper Christmas, albeit one with an appointment in the middle.
I’m glad your dad agreed to go, and I hope it all comes together for you on the day. I’m sure deep down that it’s what he wants too.
*hugs*
I think the holidays are always difficult when there’s change. At least that’s how it feels for me. I have a friend who’s feeling the same way about her American Thanksgiving holiday due to a similar set of circumstances - so you’re NOT alone.
I spend Christmas with my family, which means taking time off from work and traveling the 6-7 hours by car to see them. It’s usually a very busy and often stressful time, but I don’t know what I would do if I was too far away to not be with them for Christmas.
I hope the treatment works miracles for your dad’s health. While he may not be allowing himself to get his hopes up, I’m sure he really wants this treatment to work. Stay positive! You’ll all be in my prayers.