Comments on: MIL…

By: Darlene

Darlene — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 05:24:29 +0000

Mine did the same Lulu! And now that we are living in the same house, she knocks on our door about 10 times before entering and only stands in our hallway. I am easy going and don’t require any knocks-just walk right in!

By: Sophie

Sophie — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 16:46:46 +0000

We need to take a sample of your MIL’s DNA… and test it for a “good MIL gene” which I’m sure she has.. then I can use it to extract said gene, and with a little genetic experimentation formulate an antidote to those like mine…

seriously… wow. she came all that way, did your shopping and didn’t come it to sticky beak! she needs a medal!

Mine doesn’t usually come inside here either… and she owns our apartment… i wonder what it is? We have to force her inside if we want her for something!

Anyway… its 2:20 now.. and i’m still awake baking… new oven… wow.

xxx

By: ローラ

ローラ — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 13:18:38 +0000

That’s so nice of your MIL! It’s good to hear you two get along so well.

My MIL and GIL would kind of do the same thing whenever they’d visit our apartment, in the beginning – just stand right outside the door and hand us food-stuffs. Later on, my MIl would actually come in for a spell, and I’d make tea and such for us, and we’d chat for a bit (as I best I could at the time, with my basic Japanese knowledge!). My GIL would still just hand me stuff and jump back on her bike to go again. Sometimes she’d even knock on the back window (where we’d hang our laundry out!) if I didn’t answer the front door right away! Very persistent lady.

By: marianne

marianne — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 11:57:48 +0000

Although it must be so strange not to have your MIL come into your house in this type of situation,I do envy you.Mine is the opposite and just barges in without a word.Drives me mad that she has no respect for my home and privacy;she will even burstin to the bedroom.Grrr.
I bet your MIL will be a great help when the baby arrives and wow,she even works with kids so will have some sound advice and tips.And also,once the baby arrives,the family bonding will really strengthen.

By: Kel

Kel — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 10:01:06 +0000

I second Heather. Maybe she would feel like she’s not imposing that way?

By: Katie M

Katie M — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 09:54:47 +0000

Aww she sounds really kind and thoughtful, always thinking of you with the shopping etc. You could do a lot worse! It probably is a cultural thing! She probably just doesn’t want to be a “jyama” when she’s called in unexpectedly and knows you are supposed to be resting! I guess the best thing to is to keep on extending the invitation warmly so she knows she’s more than welcome and that you are not just trying to be polite!

By: Cassie

Cassie — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 09:03:22 +0000

My inlaws are the same. I don`t understand why they won`t just come in!

By: heather

heather — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 08:50:48 +0000

what a sweet MIL! And the whole crossing the genkan is a big deal thing doesn’t make sense to me either. But it seems it’s pretty full on. I say try calling her up to come over and see if it’s different.