Comments on: 38 weeks tomorrow and freaking out…

By: Nikki

Nikki — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 12:20:54 +0000

Everyone has given you so much good advice so I really don’t have much to add but I agree that you shouldn’t take too much notice of your doctor. I was 8 days overdue with Liam and I remember that the doctor seemed surprised that I had actually gone into labor naturally. They often don’t have much idea and just play a guessing game! Silly doctors

By: Lulu

Lulu — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 12:28:46 +0000

Thanks to everyone for their comments!!!!! I am sorry I have not replied individually- I am walking a lot more (Shun & I went for a big walk near the house yesterday) and using the stairs in our building more and doing some yoga to help things along. Other than that, taking it easy and thinking positively!!! Also trying to sit up more instead of lying around when I am on the computer or watching TV…not quite as comfortable but hey…

I have hit the nesting stage a little though and scrubbed our kitchen floors today- doubt hub will notice though. hehe. Have a huge list of other stuff I want to clean tomorrow which is so not like me.

I do not mind if baby is not born yet I just want him to come when he is ready but if at all possible would prefer a natural birth- especially here in Japan.

Thanks again to everyone.
Hopefully I get my wish!

By: Jen

Jen — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 09:12:24 +0000

Your doctor sounds like a moron. My second baby wasn’t engaged until about 10am on her birthdate and showed up at lunch.
Sometimes I think that doctors get off on scaring the bejeezers out of their patients.

Sending lots of easy labour vibes.

By: L.

L. — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 04:23:24 +0000

Hi there — I’ve had three c-sections, two in Los Angeles and one in Tokyo. While I hope you don’t need one, and that you have the easiest, most pleasant birth experience possible, I will just say that they really are nothing to fear. But I know exactly how you feel — my first one was unplanned, after a failed induction at 42+ weeks, and I remember actually weeping in front of the nurse because it really was my WORST fear at the time — but it was okay!

I do agree with commenters who say Japanese hospitals could do a better job with the follow-up medication afterwards, but this applies to medicine in general in this country. Overall, my experience was still fine — my baby was fine, I was fine. I also agree with commenters who say your doctor could have a better attitude of not discussing scary possible scenarios with you — I think some doctors just don’t realize how scary c-sections seem to most people having them for the first time! I remember the anesthesiologist saying to me, “Relax, we do this everyday,” and me saying to him, “Yeah, well, I DON’T!!!”

Hang in there, it will all be okay no matter what happens.

By: umebossy

umebossy — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 02:37:22 +0000

Doctors here definitely lack in the bedside manner department! Like everyone else says, try not to let it freak you out as it won’t be helping you or Goma-chan. Just file it away as a possibility that you’ve now been made aware of and focus on believing that you’ll be having a safe natural birth when you and Goma-chan are both ready

By: Nay

Nay — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:02:59 +0000

Lulu, I am SOOOOOOOOO sorry I am just getting around to commenting on this now, but you have gotten so much great advice already that I really can’t add much more!!

I know it must be hard but try not to stress too much about what the doctor told you – I think it was way too premature for him to say that you would need a c-section. He should have just kept his mouth shut… whats the point in worrying a first time mum about something that could easily change by your next appointment.

*HUGS*!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By: Cassandra Harada

Cassandra Harada — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 13:48:38 +0000

I just googled and found this…chances are you already read it, but I thought it would make you feel better…
http://www.bellybelly.com.au/articles/birth/baby-engaged

And thanks for the advert on facebook

By: marianne

marianne — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 11:38:33 +0000

Everyone has said it all!Just wanted to add my many (((hugs))) and hope that next weeks appoinment can put your mind at rest.

By: -phx-

-phx- — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 05:51:32 +0000

Hopefully a C-section won’t be necessary!
If you’re feeling desperate to induce labor, i’ve heard plenty about foot massages inducing labor (http://www.brighthub.com/health/alternative-medicine/articles/16234.aspx). i’m sure a foot massage would be a nice way to relax regardless.

By: Melanie

Melanie — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 04:53:09 +0000

Shame on Japanese Drs!!! He shouldn`t have said anything to you at the moment about that, perhaps the next appointment but definitely sounds like he was out to scare you when he shouldn`t have.

Although I know it will be hard, just try to relax as much as you can. Not sure what you can do to get the baby to engage more (heaven knows I tried getting on all fours and 3 hours into pushing, Misora still wasn`t making her way down, but she does have T`s big head).

Goma-chan is face down and not breach which would be the bigger concern I think. In a few of my books they said that it was just as easilly possible to give birth natural to a baby in posterior position.

Just went to locate one of my books and they say that 25% of babies are in this position and they usually do turn on their own during labor. The only difference is that the mother the backache (which I don`t really remember having, I always just felt I had to poop) that comes during labor and usually stops for the pushing stage is still there until the baby turns on their own. As for a birthing position to help, the book says to have your hands down and tilt your pelvis while in a sort of squat position.

I`m sure google could probably come up with a bunch of more helpful advice that wasn`t listed. Just try to keep positive.