Comments on: Time… http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/ An Aussie girl living in Tokyo with her Japanese husband and 2 kids trying to make sense of her crazy yet funny Japanese life... Tue, 07 Feb 2012 05:29:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: WarsawMommy http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/comment-page-1/#comment-42304 WarsawMommy Thu, 17 Jun 2010 07:18:06 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/?p=1050#comment-42304 I love those photos... nothing like playing with your food! You know, I say throw Shun in at the deep end. I did it with my husband and guess what? He did GREAT! I came home from a girls' evening to find Max sleeping beautifully, the house clean and Piotr watching a match on TV. They can handle it, but the truth is that we (women) don't give them the chance; THAT is how we end up carrying way more of the child-caring load than our husbands: we simply don't share the weight! I love those photos… nothing like playing with your food!

You know, I say throw Shun in at the deep end. I did it with my husband and guess what? He did GREAT! I came home from a girls’ evening to find Max sleeping beautifully, the house clean and Piotr watching a match on TV. They can handle it, but the truth is that we (women) don’t give them the chance; THAT is how we end up carrying way more of the child-caring load than our husbands: we simply don’t share the weight!

]]> By: Chuzai Living http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/comment-page-1/#comment-42283 Chuzai Living Mon, 14 Jun 2010 12:09:57 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/?p=1050#comment-42283 Little Miss Moi wrote what I would've written to you. What she wrote is exactly what I did at 6 months with both of my girls. I have a friend whose sons used to wake up at 5:30 am every morning as they are very light sleepers and that lasted until the older son was 3 and a half. She used a white noise machine (or a fan during summer) which kept them asleep slightly longer. My kids didn't take a bottle either. My first was absolutely stubborn and did not take anything and would only nurse, but I left her with my hubby for 4 hours when she was about 4 months. She looked like a raison (just kidding) by the time I got home, but she tired herself to sleep. I hope you'll go out and see how your hubby will do with Noah. It usually makes good funny stories to let husbands take care of their babies at night, but parenting is all about experiences. You just have to see how it will go. Good luck! -Kaho Little Miss Moi wrote what I would’ve written to you. What she wrote is exactly what I did at 6 months with both of my girls. I have a friend whose sons used to wake up at 5:30 am every morning as they are very light sleepers and that lasted until the older son was 3 and a half. She used a white noise machine (or a fan during summer) which kept them asleep slightly longer.

My kids didn’t take a bottle either. My first was absolutely stubborn and did not take anything and would only nurse, but I left her with my hubby for 4 hours when she was about 4 months. She looked like a raison (just kidding) by the time I got home, but she tired herself to sleep.

I hope you’ll go out and see how your hubby will do with Noah. It usually makes good funny stories to let husbands take care of their babies at night, but parenting is all about experiences. You just have to see how it will go. Good luck! -Kaho

]]> By: The Goddess http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/comment-page-1/#comment-42281 The Goddess Mon, 14 Jun 2010 06:19:34 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/?p=1050#comment-42281 I am taking so many notes from your blog. Thank you to you and also to all the people leaving helpful comments. 12 weeks to go... I am taking so many notes from your blog.

Thank you to you and also to all the people leaving helpful comments.

12 weeks to go…

]]> By: Cinda http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/comment-page-1/#comment-42279 Cinda Sun, 13 Jun 2010 17:47:46 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/?p=1050#comment-42279 Oh it could be growth spurt or teeth but it should all get back into the groove again. I try to stick to my little one's nap routines but lately with the school holidays and the other kids at home he's getting a bit more attention and playtime and it's playing havoc on his nap time. Mornings are ok but it's the afternoons that are getting later. Can't wait for the routine to go back to norm after the school holidays. I would love it if my hubby could look after the kids for a whole day. He just manages for 1-2 hours before I get a call to come back home. He can handle the older kids but absolutely no patience for the bubs. ...... my dream hubby would be able to handle any home situation and keep the house and kids clean :) LOL Oh it could be growth spurt or teeth but it should all get back into the groove again. I try to stick to my little one’s nap routines but lately with the school holidays and the other kids at home he’s getting a bit more attention and playtime and it’s playing havoc on his nap time. Mornings are ok but it’s the afternoons that are getting later. Can’t wait for the routine to go back to norm after the school holidays.

I would love it if my hubby could look after the kids for a whole day. He just manages for 1-2 hours before I get a call to come back home. He can handle the older kids but absolutely no patience for the bubs. …… my dream hubby would be able to handle any home situation and keep the house and kids clean :) LOL

]]> By: gaijinwife http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/comment-page-1/#comment-42278 gaijinwife Sun, 13 Jun 2010 10:49:18 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/?p=1050#comment-42278 Just do it!! There are probably little things you can get hub 'used to' about the night routine a bit more. You have a few months up your sleeve :) Just resign yourself to the fact that the house will be a pitt when you get home. The absolute worse that can happen is that Noah will have solids and water for dinner, wont take the bottle and be a hungry boy when you get home - possibly also quite sleepy and ditto daddy. Just do it!! There are probably little things you can get hub ‘used to’ about the night routine a bit more. You have a few months up your sleeve :) Just resign yourself to the fact that the house will be a pitt when you get home. The absolute worse that can happen is that Noah will have solids and water for dinner, wont take the bottle and be a hungry boy when you get home – possibly also quite sleepy and ditto daddy.

]]> By: Cassie http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/comment-page-1/#comment-42277 Cassie Sun, 13 Jun 2010 09:56:54 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/?p=1050#comment-42277 Lulu, I have an air wrap that I had on P's cot until she moved out of it. Here's a link. http://airwrap.com.au/ I can chakubarai it to you if you want it. Might help Noah sleep better. Cheers Cassie Lulu, I have an air wrap that I had on P’s cot until she moved out of it. Here’s a link. http://airwrap.com.au/
I can chakubarai it to you if you want it. Might help Noah sleep better.
Cheers
Cassie

]]> By: Lulu http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/comment-page-1/#comment-42276 Lulu Sun, 13 Jun 2010 05:48:22 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/?p=1050#comment-42276 Melanie- maybe- I blame everything on teeth although as you know we still have no teeth. HAHA! I don`t think he is actually that hungry when he wakes up during the night- I think by 7 months I will refuse to feed him all but one time overnight and then by 8 months not at all. If he wakes up thirsty I will give him water and do some sleep training. He is 6 months this week and I think I actually have it pretty easy since he naps alone (ie puts himself to sleep) and is no problem to get him back to sleep at night so I am hoping sleep training will not be too hellish. I think if I do it though we will be getting up earlier to start the day- like maybe 6:30am or 7am but if that means he sleeps from 8pm til then I would be pretty damn happy! Little MIss Moi- It is stressful although luckily I am not too stressed about it because overall he is a decent sleeper I guess. Even if he does wake up. HAHA! I like your advice about the 3 square meals and sleep training. I will definitely be doing that in the next couple of months. At the moment I don`t feel he is eating enough during the day to cut out night feeds altogether but once he is eating solids better and having lots of milk during the day I would be more comfortable with it. I might even introduce a 11pm dream feed and see how that goes and then hope he lasts til 7am or so... I might be in touch for advice!! Oh and I haven`t read that book but I followed a similar E.A.S.Y plan for Noah when he was younger (and napping every 3 hours) and it worked great so I do believe what she wrote is good. A friend has the book so I might try and borrow it to read the other chapters. Suzy- Glad to know I am not alone and that if I leave Noah with Shun and the house is a mess when I come home that most other daddies are the same!!! We have tried everything with the bottle- Shun doing it, me not been at home, Shun`s mum doing it etc etc. Nothing works. He took one til he was about 2 or 3 months and then just refused. I know he will take one eventually and I think that the recent solid food starting will help this. I just need to express some milk so Shun can try again. Paternity leave! How awesome is that!!! Gotta love Australia labor laws...NICE!! Katepickle- Haha, asleep in dress up clothes. That is kind of funny! I definitely need to leave Noah and see how Shun goes...the couple times I have to go and teach the house is a bit messy- and while nappies have been rolled up they may or may not be in the bin and Noah is usually in a sopping bib (he goes through 5 a day) - As I type this Shun has taken Noah for a walk to the book shop in a carrier. Those kinds of trips he can definitely handle...it is the home ones he struggles with. LOL Heather- Yeah- I have gone out (after i did the bath, feed and bed routine) for a late dinner with a friend in Funabashi before leaving Shun at home with Noah. The two times I did this though Noah stayed asleep until after I got home so shun didn`t have to do anything. I bet the first time I go remotely far away (like into Tokyo) will be the time there is issues. I guess if I go out for Cat/James` birthday then it will be in Tokyo but maybe this side of Tokyo so at least I could get home in 40 minutes or so... We are thinking of asking Shun`s parents to watch Noah for a couple hours sometime in July so we can go see a movie and have some lunch or dinner just the two of us. Not sure yet though. He would definitely have to be able to take a bottle first.... Accom in Melbourne- looking inner city, no more than $150 a night. So convenient/budget!! Public Transport in Melbourne is better than Brisbane so I can deal with that- the wedding reception is in South Yarra so not too expensive to catch a taxi back into inner city. Or even catch a train or tram if they are still running. . James will be back in Melbourne for the wedding too (it is a friend of ours from exchange) so however he is getting to the first part of the wedding I will just go to his parents place and go with him. He lives about 20 minutes out of the city centre but from memory it is easy to get there on one train. Melanie- maybe- I blame everything on teeth although as you know we still have no teeth. HAHA! I don`t think he is actually that hungry when he wakes up during the night- I think by 7 months I will refuse to feed him all but one time overnight and then by 8 months not at all. If he wakes up thirsty I will give him water and do some sleep training. He is 6 months this week and I think I actually have it pretty easy since he naps alone (ie puts himself to sleep) and is no problem to get him back to sleep at night so I am hoping sleep training will not be too hellish. I think if I do it though we will be getting up earlier to start the day- like maybe 6:30am or 7am but if that means he sleeps from 8pm til then I would be pretty damn happy!

Little MIss Moi- It is stressful although luckily I am not too stressed about it because overall he is a decent sleeper I guess. Even if he does wake up. HAHA! I like your advice about the 3 square meals and sleep training. I will definitely be doing that in the next couple of months. At the moment I don`t feel he is eating enough during the day to cut out night feeds altogether but once he is eating solids better and having lots of milk during the day I would be more comfortable with it.

I might even introduce a 11pm dream feed and see how that goes and then hope he lasts til 7am or so…

I might be in touch for advice!!

Oh and I haven`t read that book but I followed a similar E.A.S.Y plan for Noah when he was younger (and napping every 3 hours) and it worked great so I do believe what she wrote is good. A friend has the book so I might try and borrow it to read the other chapters.

Suzy- Glad to know I am not alone and that if I leave Noah with Shun and the house is a mess when I come home that most other daddies are the same!!!

We have tried everything with the bottle- Shun doing it, me not been at home, Shun`s mum doing it etc etc. Nothing works. He took one til he was about 2 or 3 months and then just refused. I know he will take one eventually and I think that the recent solid food starting will help this. I just need to express some milk so Shun can try again.

Paternity leave! How awesome is that!!! Gotta love Australia labor laws…NICE!!

Katepickle- Haha, asleep in dress up clothes. That is kind of funny! I definitely need to leave Noah and see how Shun goes…the couple times I have to go and teach the house is a bit messy- and while nappies have been rolled up they may or may not be in the bin and Noah is usually in a sopping bib (he goes through 5 a day) – As I type this Shun has taken Noah for a walk to the book shop in a carrier. Those kinds of trips he can definitely handle…it is the home ones he struggles with. LOL

Heather- Yeah- I have gone out (after i did the bath, feed and bed routine) for a late dinner with a friend in Funabashi before leaving Shun at home with Noah. The two times I did this though Noah stayed asleep until after I got home so shun didn`t have to do anything.

I bet the first time I go remotely far away (like into Tokyo) will be the time there is issues. I guess if I go out for Cat/James` birthday then it will be in Tokyo but maybe this side of Tokyo so at least I could get home in 40 minutes or so…

We are thinking of asking Shun`s parents to watch Noah for a couple hours sometime in July so we can go see a movie and have some lunch or dinner just the two of us. Not sure yet though. He would definitely have to be able to take a bottle first….

Accom in Melbourne- looking inner city, no more than $150 a night. So convenient/budget!! Public Transport in Melbourne is better than Brisbane so I can deal with that- the wedding reception is in South Yarra so not too expensive to catch a taxi back into inner city. Or even catch a train or tram if they are still running. . James will be back in Melbourne for the wedding too (it is a friend of ours from exchange) so however he is getting to the first part of the wedding I will just go to his parents place and go with him. He lives about 20 minutes out of the city centre but from memory it is easy to get there on one train.

]]> By: heather http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/comment-page-1/#comment-42275 heather Sun, 13 Jun 2010 04:12:09 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/?p=1050#comment-42275 The night out- go for it! I recommend choosing somewhere close for the first night out- not for Noah's sake but for Shun, K tended to get all panicky that something would go wrong. And yeah, you have to prepare yourself that nothing- absolutely nothing!- will be done the way you do it but it will get done (somehow) and it's good for both your men to realise they can cope without you. Even if you come home and have to strip the poor sleeping baby who is dressed in a polarfleece sleeper in the middle of summer.... Hotel in Melbourne? Are you looking for atmosphere, luxury, budget, something else? There are some great places to stay. PT is not fabulous so probably best to stay near where the wedding will be. The night out- go for it!

I recommend choosing somewhere close for the first night out- not for Noah’s sake but for Shun, K tended to get all panicky that something would go wrong.

And yeah, you have to prepare yourself that nothing- absolutely nothing!- will be done the way you do it but it will get done (somehow) and it’s good for both your men to realise they can cope without you. Even if you come home and have to strip the poor sleeping baby who is dressed in a polarfleece sleeper in the middle of summer….

Hotel in Melbourne? Are you looking for atmosphere, luxury, budget, something else? There are some great places to stay. PT is not fabulous so probably best to stay near where the wedding will be.

]]> By: katepickle http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/comment-page-1/#comment-42274 katepickle Sun, 13 Jun 2010 03:52:42 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/?p=1050#comment-42274 AH what a gorgeous boy! I agree with the above comment.. even now when I go out and leave my DH home with our kids for the evening he can feed, bath and put them to bed no probs... yes the house is a mess, the kids may or may not be sleeping in dress-up clothes and the dinner dishes are not even staked in the dishwasher.... but I've learnt not to care about that and just enjoy my night out and pick up the pieces later! And maybe try a straw cup for milk - something totally different to a bottle or sippy that is associated with water? If he's not ready for it, he'll let you know. On the sleeping thing... you know just when you think things have settled and you are coping on x amount of sleep, things change. It is the nature of children! LOL AH what a gorgeous boy!

I agree with the above comment.. even now when I go out and leave my DH home with our kids for the evening he can feed, bath and put them to bed no probs… yes the house is a mess, the kids may or may not be sleeping in dress-up clothes and the dinner dishes are not even staked in the dishwasher…. but I’ve learnt not to care about that and just enjoy my night out and pick up the pieces later!

And maybe try a straw cup for milk – something totally different to a bottle or sippy that is associated with water? If he’s not ready for it, he’ll let you know.

On the sleeping thing… you know just when you think things have settled and you are coping on x amount of sleep, things change. It is the nature of children! LOL

]]> By: suzy http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/2010/06/13/time-2/comment-page-1/#comment-42273 suzy Sun, 13 Jun 2010 03:14:11 +0000 http://www.cherryblossomadventures.com/?p=1050#comment-42273 Have you tried Shun or someone else giving Noah a bottle when you're not there? Sometimes babies won't take it from their mum because they know there's an easier way. Maybe on the weekend you could express some milk and then go hide out at a coffee shop with a novel for a couple of hours... If he got hungry and you weren't there the bottle might look like a more appealing option (this is what happened with Ali). If you go out for a night I can 99% guarantee that the house will look like a bombshell when you get home, but I'm sure Noah would be fine and that's the main thing... and you would get to have a night out baby free. I don't know why it is, but I can look after a baby/child and do washing/tidying/basic housework at the same time but if Mark does it he can ONLY do the child minding bit... maybe it's just practice. He's going to take 3 months paternity leave when baby #2 arrives, so time will tell... Have you tried Shun or someone else giving Noah a bottle when you’re not there? Sometimes babies won’t take it from their mum because they know there’s an easier way. Maybe on the weekend you could express some milk and then go hide out at a coffee shop with a novel for a couple of hours… If he got hungry and you weren’t there the bottle might look like a more appealing option (this is what happened with Ali).

If you go out for a night I can 99% guarantee that the house will look like a bombshell when you get home, but I’m sure Noah would be fine and that’s the main thing… and you would get to have a night out baby free. I don’t know why it is, but I can look after a baby/child and do washing/tidying/basic housework at the same time but if Mark does it he can ONLY do the child minding bit… maybe it’s just practice. He’s going to take 3 months paternity leave when baby #2 arrives, so time will tell…

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